Rejection can come in various forms and ways and everyone probably has to go through it at some phase of their life. For some it may be the rejection of a love proposal, while for others it may be the rejection of a job application or anything related to their career ,work, academics,familial and social matters etc. Whatever the matter may be and no matter how painful the rejection is ;when it comes to dealing with them we can apply few basic principles and try to reprogram our thought process. So lets explore what kind of mentality we can build in order to overpower any form of rejection:
1.It is not the end : Every time we come across rejection, and though it may be awfully painful ; we need to keep saying to ourselves that this probably is not the end and better things will surely happen in the near future. Keeping patience and motivating oneself can greatly help in passing through this difficult phase. Even though ,the preliminary stage is going to be tough but steadily everything will fall in line.
2.Just move on: Yes rejection hurts. It is a harsh reality. But constantly pondering over it may adversely affect the quality of your present life and also the future. If you are really concerned about progressing in life, then you have to just move on. It doesn’t matter if your job application is rejected, or your boyfriend/girlfriend dumps you, or the boss in office don’t give a damn about you. What really matters is how you deal with the situation following the aftermath. Plan a mechanism which will help you in getting out of it. The bottom-line is “keep moving forward”.
3.Be prepared: Getting ourselves prepared to accept any form of rejection can prove counterproductive. It can immensely help us in minimizing the burden of it’s after effect. Anticipating the consequences will further enable us to take precautionary measures so that we can avoid getting rejected in the coming days.
4.It is a lesson to learn: Rather than considering rejection as some form of curse that will ransack our life, we can think of it as a lesson to learn from. Learning from our experiences, and not repeating the past mistakes will definitely help us in our endeavour to build a better future.
5.Follow the examples: Every grown up and responsible human being, will probably face rejection at some phase of their life .The prognosis depend solely on us; our way of handling the situation. Either we can let it make us or break us. The choice is ours. The world is full of examples of great people who initially failed or faced rejections ; but they didn’t give up and came back strongly fighting against all odds. For instance:
a)Albert Einstein: Einstein didn’t speak until he was 4 and didn’t read until he was 7 causing his teacher to think that he was mentally handicapped .Eventually he was expelled from school and refused admittance to Zürich Polytechnic School .But he caught on pretty well in the end winning the Nobel prize.
b)Thomas Edison: Teacher’s told Edison that he was too stupid to learn anything. He was fired from his first two jobs for being unproductive .Edison made 1000 unsuccessful attempt before inventing the light bulb.
c)Oprah Winfrey: Oprah endured an abusive childhood and numerous career setbacks including being fired from her job as a TV reporter because they found her “unfit for TV”
d) Steven Spielberg :He was rejected from University of South California school of theatre ,film and television. He eventually attended school at another location, only to drop out to become a great director. Spielberg returned to school in 2002 to complete his degree.
e)J K Rowling: She was penniless, severely depressed ,raising a child on her own, while attending school and writing a novel. Rowling was depending on welfare to survive at one point of her life. But she went on to become one of the richest women in the world in a span of only 5 years owing to her hard work and dedication.
f)The Beatles: A recording company told them “We don’t like your sound and guitar music is on the way out”.
g)Michael Jordan: The basketball legend was not selected in his high school basketball team. But this setback couldn’t stop him from chasing his dreams.
There are many other such examples. But the idea that is being illustrated is quite simple and common. All reacted positively to their situation. Rather than letting their circumstances to control them; they took control over their circumstances and emerged as the winner.
Likewise anyone of us can be a winner in our life if we take personal responsibility for our career and success and don’t get intimidated by the minor obstacle so called “REJECTION”.