While having my breakfast ,I usually turn on the television to gather some information about what’s going on around the world .But as I finish my breakfast, a gloomy and depressive feeling engulf my mind .This kind of feeling last for max 5-10 minutes ,and gradually disappear as I head to my workplace only to reappear the next morning the same time. But the million dollar question is why there is such a feeling ?Is it due to the food ?No ,obviously not. The breakfast is rich and tasty .Secondly, Am I sick? No, everything is fine with me. Yeah, I guess you got it right now .Its all due to the news that I watched along while having my breakfast. I don’t want to blame the whole of the news for it, but to some of its content .Specially the part that dealt with violence: terrorism, extremism ,suicide bombings,drone bombings, guerilla attacks, abduction, assaults and other such disturbing elements. I am not here to judge as to who is right and who is wrong. Probably what may seem right to me may be wrong to other. Watching the TV from the comforts of my home, I probably am not the suitable person to draw conclusions.
But what I can summarize based on my observation on this matter is that probably some among us has forgotten about their basic existence as a “ human being “ in this materialistic world .Yes, it may sound bitter ,but it is of course the harsh reality .
Before doing any act, if every human being take a second and ask themselves “ARE WE DOING IT THE HUMANE WAY?”;probably this world would have been a different place to live in .There would be no violence ,no war ,no oppression ,no suppression, no corruption ,no anger ,no frustrations and other such negative activities. It would be a peaceful one ,where everyone will live in harmony .But THE question remains :is it possible? To find out the answer, let’s have a look at this case. Today, when we are encountered with a simple question; for instance :” Sir/Madam ,who are you?” Probably some of the replies will be : I am a soldier/doctor/engineer/banker/IT professional/politician/driver/chef/actor/teacher/professor/student/pilot/farmer/writer /businessman/entrepreneur etc. Some others may reply. I am a Christian/Muslim/Hindu/Jew/Buddhist etc .Now ,when we reply such ,most of the time we tend to forget about our basics; our birth as a human being. Forgetting this basic fact of life leads to the never-ending race to prove ones superiority over the other, and this is the sole cause of all the man made tragedies, that some among ourselves encounter .
So, next time when we are encountered with a question regarding our identity, we need to remind ourselves about being “human” first and everything else is secondary. It all depend on us. We can make this world a better place to live in.
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Rejection can come in various forms and ways and everyone probably has to go through it at some phase of their life. For some it may be the rejection of a love proposal, while for others it may be the rejection of a job application or anything related to their career ,work, academics,familial and social matters etc. Whatever the matter may be and no matter how painful the rejection is ;when it comes to dealing with them we can apply few basic principles and try to reprogram our thought process. So lets explore what kind of mentality we can build in order to overpower any form of rejection:
1.It is not the end : Every time we come across rejection, and though it may be awfully painful ; we need to keep saying to ourselves that this probably is not the end and better things will surely happen in the near future. Keeping patience and motivating oneself can greatly help in passing through this difficult phase. Even though ,the preliminary stage is going to be tough but steadily everything will fall in line.
2.Just move on: Yes rejection hurts. It is a harsh reality. But constantly pondering over it may adversely affect the quality of your present life and also the future. If you are really concerned about progressing in life, then you have to just move on. It doesn’t matter if your job application is rejected, or your boyfriend/girlfriend dumps you, or the boss in office don’t give a damn about you. What really matters is how you deal with the situation following the aftermath. Plan a mechanism which will help you in getting out of it. The bottom-line is “keep moving forward”.
3.Be prepared: Getting ourselves prepared to accept any form of rejection can prove counterproductive. It can immensely help us in minimizing the burden of it’s after effect. Anticipating the consequences will further enable us to take precautionary measures so that we can avoid getting rejected in the coming days.
4.It is a lesson to learn: Rather than considering rejection as some form of curse that will ransack our life, we can think of it as a lesson to learn from. Learning from our experiences, and not repeating the past mistakes will definitely help us in our endeavour to build a better future.
5.Follow the examples: Every grown up and responsible human being, will probably face rejection at some phase of their life .The prognosis depend solely on us; our way of handling the situation. Either we can let it make us or break us. The choice is ours. The world is full of examples of great people who initially failed or faced rejections ; but they didn’t give up and came back strongly fighting against all odds. For instance:
a)Albert Einstein: Einstein didn’t speak until he was 4 and didn’t read until he was 7 causing his teacher to think that he was mentally handicapped .Eventually he was expelled from school and refused admittance to Zürich Polytechnic School .But he caught on pretty well in the end winning the Nobel prize.
b)Thomas Edison: Teacher’s told Edison that he was too stupid to learn anything. He was fired from his first two jobs for being unproductive .Edison made 1000 unsuccessful attempt before inventing the light bulb.
c)Oprah Winfrey: Oprah endured an abusive childhood and numerous career setbacks including being fired from her job as a TV reporter because they found her “unfit for TV”
d) Steven Spielberg :He was rejected from University of South California school of theatre ,film and television. He eventually attended school at another location, only to drop out to become a great director. Spielberg returned to school in 2002 to complete his degree.
e)J K Rowling: She was penniless, severely depressed ,raising a child on her own, while attending school and writing a novel. Rowling was depending on welfare to survive at one point of her life. But she went on to become one of the richest women in the world in a span of only 5 years owing to her hard work and dedication.
f)The Beatles: A recording company told them “We don’t like your sound and guitar music is on the way out”.
g)Michael Jordan: The basketball legend was not selected in his high school basketball team. But this setback couldn’t stop him from chasing his dreams.
There are many other such examples. But the idea that is being illustrated is quite simple and common. All reacted positively to their situation. Rather than letting their circumstances to control them; they took control over their circumstances and emerged as the winner.
Likewise anyone of us can be a winner in our life if we take personal responsibility for our career and success and don’t get intimidated by the minor obstacle so called “REJECTION”.
Every night before going to bed I say to myself that from tomorrow onwards I shall start developing some good habits so that I can become a better person in comparison to what I am today. But gradually the next day pass by and again it is the time to sleep and then I realise that unfortunately I haven’t been able to keep the promise I made to myself yesterday night. This vicious thought cycle had probably been running inside my head since time immemorial .By the way let me tell you about the good habits that I really want to build; these include waking up early in the morning (@ 5am),going to the gym, reading a motivational book ,to appreciate nature’s beauty and spending some quality time with my near and dear one. But again unfortunately none of these thoughts had been turned into action till now .As I dig deep down into my thoughts as to why building few simple good habits are becoming so much difficult ,I came up with the following conclusions:
- I am LAZY :Yeah it sounds harsh but I have to admit it. Laziness has been cited by psychologist as a form of addiction. The longer you stay lazy, the harder it is to get out of this mess .However I believe that by cultivating a strong will power, it is possible to get rid of it.
2.There is no short-term gain involved: The human brain is always interested in doing things that offer short-term rewards, rather than waiting for long-term gain. For instance if a person is told that he will be awarded 500 dollars for waking up at 4 am and then running 3km the next morning, everyone probably will do the task. However if the same group of people are told to repeat the same activity daily for 6 months, and promised that they would be rewarded at the end of the task with the same 500 dollars, probably only a few will turn up for the task. This possibly explains my situation .I don’t see any short-term benefits coming my way and due to this I end up avoiding my long-term gain.
- I am not hungry for more :Before I got my job, I used to try all the extra things that would better my resume so that chances of getting a good job increase .But after I got my desired job and started earning a handsome salary, everything from there started getting slow. I started to realise that I was not pushing my limits and the hunger for betterment has vanished. If there is no hunger within us; we will all stop making any further progress.
4.No time for motivation :With the busy job schedule ,I hardly care to find time to motivate myself. This indeed is a great mistake on my part. Motivation is like an efficient fuel that keep us going in our search for perfection. Without self motivation our progress is going to halt.
So , now as I draw these conclusions it is already 12:05 am and I guess it is time to go to bed if I were wake up early so that I can carry on with the so called good habits. Hope this new year brings us more peace and prosperity than ever before. Good night………..