“BEING HUMAN”:

While having my breakfast ,I usually  turn on the television to gather some information about  what’s going on around the world .But as I  finish my breakfast, a gloomy  and depressive feeling engulf my mind .This  kind of feeling  last  for max 5-10 minutes ,and gradually disappear as I head to my workplace only  to reappear the next morning  the same time. But the million dollar question is why there is such a feeling ?Is it due to the food ?No ,obviously not. The breakfast is rich and tasty .Secondly, Am I sick? No, everything is fine with me. Yeah, I guess you got it right now .Its all due to the news that I watched along while having my breakfast. I don’t want to blame the whole of the news for it, but to some of its content .Specially the part that dealt with violence: terrorism, extremism ,suicide bombings,drone bombings, guerilla attacks, abduction, assaults   and other such disturbing elements. I am not here to judge as to who is right and who is wrong. Probably what may seem right to me may be wrong to other. Watching the TV from the comforts of my home, I probably am not the suitable person to draw conclusions.

                                                        But what I can summarize  based  on my observation  on this matter  is  that   probably  some among us has forgotten about their  basic  existence as  a “ human  being  “ in this materialistic world .Yes, it may sound bitter ,but it is of course the harsh reality .

                                                            Before doing  any act,  if every human being  take a second and  ask themselves “ARE WE DOING IT THE HUMANE  WAY?”;probably  this  world  would have  been  a  different  place to live in .There would be no violence ,no war ,no oppression ,no suppression, no corruption ,no anger ,no frustrations   and other such negative activities. It would be a peaceful  one ,where everyone will live in harmony .But THE question remains :is it possible? To find out the answer, let’s have a look at this case.  Today, when we are encountered with a simple question; for  instance :” Sir/Madam ,who  are you?” Probably some of the replies will be : I am   a  soldier/doctor/engineer/banker/IT professional/politician/driver/chef/actor/teacher/professor/student/pilot/farmer/writer /businessman/entrepreneur etc. Some others may reply. I am a Christian/Muslim/Hindu/Jew/Buddhist etc .Now ,when we reply such ,most of the time we tend to forget about our  basics; our birth as a human being. Forgetting this basic fact of life leads to  the never-ending race  to prove ones superiority  over the other, and  this  is the sole  cause  of  all   the  man  made   tragedies, that some   among ourselves encounter   .

                                                     So, next time when we are  encountered  with  a  question regarding  our identity, we  need to remind ourselves about  being   “human” first  and  everything   else is secondary. It all depend on  us. We can make this world a better place to live in.

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OVERCOMING REJECTIONS:


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Rejection can come in various forms and ways and everyone probably   has to  go through it at some phase  of their life. For some it may be the rejection of a love proposal, while for others it may be  the rejection of a job application or anything related to their career ,work, academics,familial and social matters  etc. Whatever  the matter may be and no matter how painful  the rejection is ;when it comes to dealing with  them we can apply  few   basic principles  and  try  to  reprogram our thought process. So lets  explore  what  kind of  mentality  we  can build in order to  overpower  any form of rejection:

 

1.It is not the end : Every time  we come across rejection, and  though it may be awfully   painful ;   we need to keep saying  to ourselves that  this  probably is not the  end  and better things will surely happen in the near future. Keeping patience and   motivating   oneself   can   greatly  help  in  passing through  this  difficult  phase. Even though ,the preliminary stage is going to be tough but  steadily  everything  will  fall  in line.

 

 2.Just move on:   Yes rejection   hurts. It is  a   harsh   reality. But constantly pondering  over  it   may  adversely  affect  the quality of  your present life and also the future. If you are really concerned  about  progressing  in    life, then  you  have  to  just  move  on. It  doesn’t matter  if  your  job  application is rejected, or  your  boyfriend/girlfriend  dumps  you, or the  boss in office don’t give a damn about you.  What  really  matters  is  how  you  deal  with  the  situation following  the  aftermath. Plan  a  mechanism  which  will  help  you  in  getting  out  of  it. The bottom-line  is “keep  moving  forward”.

 

 3.Be prepared: Getting  ourselves prepared to  accept  any  form  of  rejection  can  prove  counterproductive. It  can  immensely  help us in minimizing the burden  of  it’s after effect. Anticipating  the  consequences  will  further  enable  us to  take  precautionary  measures   so   that  we  can avoid  getting  rejected  in the coming days.

 

 4.It is a lesson to learn: Rather  than  considering rejection as some form of curse  that will  ransack  our  life, we can  think  of it as  a  lesson  to  learn from. Learning from our    experiences, and   not  repeating  the past mistakes  will  definitely   help us  in our endeavour  to  build  a  better future.

 

5.Follow the examples: Every grown up and responsible  human being, will  probably face  rejection  at some phase of their   life  .The   prognosis  depend  solely  on  us; our way of  handling  the  situation. Either we can let  it  make  us   or   break  us. The  choice   is  ours. The  world  is   full  of  examples  of great people  who  initially failed or faced   rejections ; but  they  didn’t  give  up  and  came  back  strongly  fighting  against  all  odds. For instance:

a)Albert  Einstein: Einstein didn’t speak until he was 4 and didn’t read until he was 7  causing his teacher to think that he was mentally  handicapped .Eventually he was expelled from school and  refused  admittance to  Zürich Polytechnic School .But  he  caught on  pretty well in the end winning  the Nobel prize.

b)Thomas Edison: Teacher’s  told Edison that he  was too stupid to learn  anything. He was fired from his  first two  jobs  for  being  unproductive .Edison  made  1000  unsuccessful  attempt   before inventing the light bulb.

c)Oprah Winfrey: Oprah  endured  an abusive  childhood and numerous career  setbacks including  being fired  from her  job as a TV reporter because  they  found   her “unfit for TV”

d) Steven Spielberg :He was rejected from University of South California school of theatre ,film and television. He eventually   attended  school  at  another  location, only to  drop out to become  a great director.  Spielberg  returned to school in 2002 to  complete  his  degree.

 e)J K Rowling: She was penniless, severely depressed ,raising a child on her own, while attending school and writing a novel. Rowling was depending on welfare to survive at one point of her life. But she went on to become one of the richest women in the world in a span of only 5 years  owing to her hard work and dedication.

 

f)The Beatles: A  recording company told them “We don’t like your sound and guitar music is on the way out”.

g)Michael Jordan: The  basketball legend was not selected in his high school basketball team. But this setback couldn’t stop him from chasing his dreams.

         

                There are  many other such examples. But the idea that is being illustrated is quite simple and common. All  reacted positively  to their situation. Rather than letting their circumstances  to control  them; they took control  over their circumstances  and emerged  as the winner.

Likewise anyone of us can be a winner  in our life if we take personal  responsibility for our career  and  success  and don’t get  intimidated  by  the  minor  obstacle so  called  “REJECTION”.

Building good habits :is it the most difficult thing ?

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Every night before going to bed I say to myself that from tomorrow onwards I   shall   start developing some good habits so that I   can   become a better person in comparison to what I am today. But gradually     the   next day pass   by   and   again it is the    time to sleep  and then I  realise  that   unfortunately   I  haven’t been  able to keep  the  promise  I  made   to  myself  yesterday  night. This vicious   thought   cycle   had probably   been    running   inside  my  head  since time immemorial .By  the way  let me tell you about the good habits that I really  want to  build; these include  waking  up early in the morning (@ 5am),going  to the gym, reading a motivational book ,to appreciate nature’s  beauty and spending some quality time with my near and dear one. But again unfortunately none of these thoughts   had been   turned  into  action till  now .As  I  dig deep  down into  my thoughts  as  to why  building  few simple good  habits  are becoming   so  much   difficult ,I came up  with the following conclusions:

  1. I  am  LAZY :Yeah it sounds harsh but I have to admit it. Laziness   has   been   cited   by   psychologist   as   a   form of addiction. The longer you stay lazy, the   harder  it  is  to  get out of this mess .However I believe that  by cultivating a  strong will power, it is possible to get rid of it.

2.There  is no  short-term gain involved: The human brain  is  always interested in doing things that  offer   short-term rewards, rather  than waiting for long-term gain. For instance if  a  person  is  told that  he will  be awarded  500 dollars  for  waking up  at   4  am  and  then running  3km  the next morning, everyone probably will   do  the    task. However   if the      same   group of people are told to repeat the same   activity  daily  for   6   months, and promised  that they would be rewarded  at  the end of the  task   with the same 500  dollars, probably only a few will  turn up for the task. This possibly   explains my  situation .I don’t see  any  short-term  benefits  coming my  way and due to this I end up avoiding  my  long-term gain.

  1.  I am not hungry for more :Before I got my job, I used to try   all   the extra things  that would  better   my  resume  so that  chances of  getting a good job   increase .But after I got my desired job   and started earning a handsome salary, everything from  there started    getting slow. I  started  to realise that  I  was   not  pushing  my  limits   and the hunger for betterment has vanished. If   there is no hunger within us; we will all stop  making  any further progress.

4.No time for  motivation :With the busy job schedule ,I    hardly care to  find  time  to  motivate  myself. This indeed is a   great mistake on my part. Motivation is   like   an   efficient   fuel that   keep us   going   in our search for perfection.  Without   self   motivation   our  progress is going  to  halt.

So , now  as   I  draw  these  conclusions  it is  already   12:05 am   and  I  guess     it  is time  to  go  to  bed  if  I  were  wake up  early  so  that  I can  carry on with the  so  called good habits. Hope this new year brings us  more peace and prosperity  than ever  before. Good night………..

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